1.7.21 // therapy learnings

Therapy Learnings...
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"If you're not messing up you're not growing."
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Right, right, sure I told myself... Obviously, but I don't need to fail all the time to learn, do I?
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No, but my therapist went on to explain that there is a strong correlation between effort and loss and learning.
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I couldn't argue, my therapist made a great point. In the moments where I've tried something and failed, I've changed. Some of these changes were small and some of these changes were massive with takeaways from my mistakes that lead to that growth.
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Here I am sharing this fact on social media and realizing that social media is actually a place where mistakes and failures aren't as readily shared.
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Perfect personas of each of us are displayed with careful consideration and strategic words. However, social media contributes to the disconnect that other humans are failing and making mistakes. It makes you feel isolated and alone.
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But, as research has shown, talking about failure can help you cultivate relationships, understand yourself, and grow.
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So with my therapy learning of the week, I want to share a failure with you guys because I am not perfect, not even close...
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The past few weeks, I've overextended myself. I failed at taking care of myself because I wanted to people-please. I noticed my body giving me warning signs that I was feeling off and overcommitted and I ignored them... eventually resulting in my body warnings turning into anger and frustration took out on a loved one close to me. I failed to listen to myself.
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Failure isn't easy, but it is beautiful. Here's to more failing this year, and more open honesty about those beautiful moments of growth.