11.12.24 // Love-Coated Limerence

When love-coated limerence fades, we're left in the liminal space.
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Lost in the in-between of what was tasted early on and what we were promised, a dangerous place to rest because the past and the future have no place in the present.
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But, limerence can be all-encompassing, the sheen only wearing off as time passes. Curiosity and willingness to dig deep into the emotions and needs of that same object of infatuation start to feel less like an adventure,  
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But limerence is based on the desire for connection, a yearning so deeply human in its existence. We want to be wanted, we need to be needed, we plead to be seen, and beg to be understood. We crave to feel connected to someone outside of ourselves. We pine to feel like, at long last, we found our missing other half, as Aristophanes explains in Plato's Symposium.
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So we cling, we falsely commit, and we mutter promises that can't be kept because capacity can't be given if it doesn't actually exist.
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Limerence and liminal space....perhaps cut from the same cloth, perhaps the same stardust that feels both infinite and non-existent, perhaps a mix of real and imaginary.