1.19.21 // change

Change.
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Change on an individual level is cherished and celebrated.
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We find addressing trauma from our past and changing ourselves to show up as better humans, a feat. And it is...
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But when change happens outside of ourselves, we are resentful.
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We see something that is changing as slipping out of a hold of control and we are fueled by anger, overcome with sadness, or riddled with harbored disgruntled feelings.
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And on the opposite side of the coin that celebrates change on a personal level, there is the side that socially accepts anger when change is occurring beyond your control.
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But what if we greeted a change with open arms?
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What if we greeted *external change* with open arms?
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It sounds challenging, but it can start as quickly as one shift... realizing it is out of your control and you can only control your reaction.
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I say *only* control your reaction, but being able to control your reaction to external change is no small feat and is incredibly powerful! It allows you to control without changing the circumstances. It allows you to see the world differently, to see it through a lens of your needing.
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Don't get me wrong, emotional and physical reactions teach us a lot about ourselves and I don't think we shouldn't have them.
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But, I think we should notice them and then learn to use those reactions as a way to serve our own mental and physical wellbeing.
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I talk a big game, but in reality, I'm learning. Well really, I'm unlearning how to react.
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I'm unlearning what I've been told is weak or controlling. I'm unlearning the way I've lived for years.
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While noting and controlling your reaction is a small moment and action, it is simultaneous extremely powerful and in that, is freeing!
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I know I want to let go of anger and a feeling of being caged since I thrive on flexibility. But, it starts with realizing that "feeling caged" is a product of me not controlling my reaction​.