8.18.21 // disappointing

For the past couple of days I haven't been able to stop thinking about this Glennon Doyle quote:
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“Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.”
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I love this quote deeply and hate it just as much.
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I love it because the words give me the freedom to follow my intuition, my internal compass, and my needs as they shift and grow each passing day.
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I hate it because it simplifies the act of disappointing others. It sounds so easy, to just "chose yourself" even at the cost of pain from others. My therapist would say that others’ emotions aren't my responsibility ("not my circus, not my monkeys"), but I feel the disappointment of others and struggle to not feel deep shame and guilt around my choices to "avoid disappointing myself."
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Glennon's mantra is "we can do hard things." And I've always agreed with her, but sometimes I find that simplification infuriating.
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Maybe it makes me mad because I'm insecure about my ability to disappoint others without a huge cost to my own mental health. Maybe it makes me mad because it firmly puts me in the driver seat of having to weigh the value of various disappointments in my own mind (like is it worth it to let down X friend or Y family for my Z need).
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What are your thoughts...?